What is inevitability formula you ask? It’s for those who worry too much.
Example: You rush to pick up your kid from school and you suspect that you may have ran a red light. You freak out, and keep going over and over it in your mind. Next time simply apply the following ”Inevitability Formula”.
- You either ran the light or you did not.
- If you did not run a red light you have nothing to worry about.
- If you did run a red light, the camera either took your picture or it did not.
- If the camera did not take your picture, you have nothing to worry about.
- If the camera did take your picture, you will either receive a ticket or you won’t.
- If you don’t receive a ticket, you have nothing to worry about.
- If you do receive a ticket, there is nothing you can do about it so don’t worry anyway. It was inevitable.
Oversimplified? Maybe. True? Definitely. But seriously, just how much control do we have over what has already happened? Actually none. We can choose to dwell and worry about it, or we can choose to tell ourselves that it was inevitable and move on. Moving on presents several benefits over the former choice. You can actually learn from whatever happened so not to repeat it again. You can also move on to achieve whatever it was you were trying to achieve the first time around.
Practice of the above requires discipline. The subject of discipline deserves it’s own post, so I will only add this: Disciplining the mind requires practice. Just like going to the gym and exercising your muscles, you should practice exercising the mind. Lucky for us, exercising the mind does not require a gym membership.
Live well. Vlad